Victims of Hair Fashion

When I was younger, my hair was all wrong.

Everyone was meant to have thin, poker-straight locks, falling like curtains around their face. Mine is thick, wavy, and flies wherever it chooses.

I would watch straight-haired girls complain about their tangles, skimming the brush through them. I was more bemused by this than anything. (Note: If you start brushing, let go of the brush, and it falls to the floor, you know nothing about tangles!)

I remember buying hair straighteners and going through a period of taming mine, but it wasn’t very successful. I joked that Continue reading

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Not Everyone Likes You: Get Over It.

How do you deal with criticism?

We have to decide which opinions should be taken on board and which should be ignored. This isn’t easy. We usually need a reasonable understanding of ourselves. Sometimes we gain that understanding through removing ourselves from others, and sometimes it’s through spending time with others that we discover our ‘tribe’.

Some opinions should be listened to carefully. As a writer, I have a few people who I deem ‘ideal readers’. This is the audience I regularly connect with, admire, and know to be constructive in their comments. They understand where I’m coming from, like my style, and generally enjoy the content I produce.

If one of my ‘ideal readers’ thinks I’ve missed the mark, then I would give it serious consideration. There are three possibilities: Continue reading

Things I’d Never Say to People

You can’t do this.

That’s ugly acne you’ve got there.

Why are you so lazy?

You’re weak.

You’ll never be good enough.

You don’t deserve time out to rest.

Try harder, or they’ll hate you.

If you do everything right, you’ll be popular.

People only see your flaws when you walk into a room.

Stop making so many mistakes.

Don’t stop working, or you’ll be a failure.

You’re a horrible person to live with. Continue reading

Be Bold and Wacky: Great Marks Vs Development

I’m frustrated with my second MA assignment. I’ve been labouring over the script for ages, trying to find the heart of the story, and trim-trim-trimming the excess words. Mum read it and said, gently, ‘It’s not your best work’. Unfortunately, she’s right.

‘What’s wrong with it?’ I keep asking myself. Most of it seems fine, but there’s something that isn’t, and I can’t locate the ‘fault’. I discussed this with Mum over lunch. She observed that my Continue reading

Please Connect

I had a vivid dream the other night. I’d entered a competition to perform in a show, which (to cut a long story short) resulted in me becoming a stagehand. My subconscious is cruel; it wasn’t the role I was aiming for!

Anyway, as I stood at the side of the stage, I watched the two lead characters performing a dramatic scene. The actress arranged her face so that it looked Continue reading

Is Crossfit Unfeminine?

‘I would lift weights, but I don’t want to get big.’

‘I want to be strong…as long as I don’t “look” strong, if you know what I mean.’

‘Aren’t you worried that you might become…ya know…bulky?’

The last question always makes me laugh. I usually joke that becoming bulky takes a lot of hard work and I’m far too lazy! I’m not bulky (and neither are my Crossfit friends), but if I was, I’d wear my muscles as if they were medals.

Women want to be respected for their Continue reading